May 2026 · Alice Ksendzova · Sales

The sales skill most people skip: listening

When you talk with a prospect, active listening is the whole job. Not the pitch, not the clever line — the listening. You have to actually hear what someone needs before you can offer something that fits it. Most people treat a sales call as their turn to talk. The good ones treat it as their turn to learn.

Listen for the real concern

People tell you what's stopping them, if you let them. Say a prospect worries about spending money without seeing results. That's not an objection to steamroll. It's the exact thing to address, directly and honestly. Use what they've already told you to show why your solution fits their situation — not a generic situation, theirs. The details they hand you are the script.

Ask questions

Always ask about what they're describing. Questions do two things at once. They show you're actually listening, and they pull out the information you need to be useful. The mindset shift that matters: you're trying to help this person, not close this person. When the goal is genuinely to help, the right questions come naturally, and people feel the difference.

Be patient, and don't sound like a salesperson

Give people room to think and respond. Don't push, don't rush them toward a yes. Let them finish their thoughts completely before you speak. That small bit of patience makes someone feel respected and heard, which is worth more than any line you could have squeezed into the gap.

Keep it simple

Most importantly, don't confuse them. Listen carefully to what they're trying to say and resist the urge to assume you already know. Keep an open mind, aim for clarity, and give straightforward answers. Simple, clear responses prevent the misunderstandings that quietly kill deals. If they have to work to understand you, you've already lost some of them.

None of this is a trick. It's just treating a conversation like a conversation. Listen first, ask real questions, slow down, and stay clear. Do that and you'll close more than any script ever could — because people buy from the person who actually understood them.

Written by Alice Ksendzova, writer and growth lead at Influencer Advisory. Related: why cold email stopped working. Connect on LinkedIn.